Don’t Confuse Bravery with Fearlessness

“Brave means living from the inside out. Brave means, in every uncertain moment, turning inward, feeling for the Knowing, and speaking it out loud.“- Glennon Doyle, Untamed

As I read this in Glennon Doyle’s book, Untamed, it was one of the first times I actually caught myself gasping while reading.  I have actually stood in front of a classroom of students, and even my own children, and have told them that BRAVE means doing something courageous even if you are scared.  What I should have been telling them is that Bravery has nothing to do with fear or lack there of.  Bravery is being honest with yourself and doing what is honesty YOU. Bravery means…

doing what is true to you

living with integrity and confidence

This year, I have been vulnerable, sad, anxious, and thrilled.  Each emotion comes and goes in waves with a flood of bravery that takes a moment to press ENTER or PUBLISH.  For the first time in my life, I have been bravely ME. I haven’t been hiding behind what I thought everyone wanted to see, I haven’t been pretending to be okay when I wasn’t, and I have been standing up for myself, my needs, and sharing with others on how to do this for themselves.

imageI am about to take my next step forward on this vulnerable rollercoaster by creating a website.  A one-stop-shop for those following and sharing in my journey of becoming who I was always supposed to be. A place where my confidence and integrity and my True self get to be showcased.

As I get older, I begin to feel more harmonious, I feel more whole, centered in who I am.  I know my self-worth, and I keep cultivating my personal power through healthy habits.  I am a warrior.  There is a balance between my spiritual and material world as I develop acceptance and begin to feel an inner peace and calm. 18ixdxnm0k3upjpg

The opposite of Brave is Not Fear-

The opposite of Brave is Dishonesty.

Acknowledge both the good and bad in your life. …Practice ‘radical acceptance’.  There are so many things in our world that we do not have control over. The faster you accept that, the more honest you can be with yourself.

Take time to reflect…It just takes 5-10 minutes a day to reflect, write down or tell someone what you did today that you are proud of, grateful for, and want to do tomorrow better (that you have control over)

Admit it when you make mistakes. …Often times we try to protect our egos by coming up with excuses or blaming others for our problems. However, true self-esteem can only be found when we are comfortable and honest about our mistakes and short-comings.

Pay attention to your feelings. …While sometimes emotions can be misleading, they can also be very revealing. When we question our feelings and ask ourselves the true causes behind our emotions, we can learn what thoughts, actions, and situations cause us to feel a certain way.

This knowledge gives us a better understanding of ourselves and how to respond to our emotions differently in the future.

Find someone you trust to be open with you. ...

Be straightforward – don’t over analyze. ...Being honest with yourself isn’t about trying to intellectualize or rationalize everything that happens to you. Just be straightforward and “matter of fact” with yourself.

Know what you don’t know. ..Understanding our limitations keeps us open to new information and knowledge. This also allows us to be more flexible with our beliefs and modify them when we learn something new. There’s a wisdom in ignorance if you’re willing to acknowledge it and adapt to it.

Honesty takes practice.


Be Brave. 

Be Honest. 

Be a Warrior.


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